The government has announced that all divorcing couples will have to consider mediation before they are allowed to go to court to resolve any disputes. Angela Maxfield looks at how mediation can help reduce the stress and cost of separation.Divorce proceedings often descend into bitter in-fighting and recriminations with everything from money, the children and the kitchen sink being dragged into the battle.Now the Government, with the backing of many family lawyers, wants to promote a more civilised approach. From 6th April onwards, all divorcing couples will have to consider mediation before they are allowed to proceed to court.Mediation is an informal process in which a trained mediator helps the couple to resolve difficult issues amicably. It is usually quicker and cheaper than going through the courts.The mediator, such as a solicitor, can arrange meetings on neutral premises. The mediator's role is to act as a facilitator to help the couple share information and reach an agreement. It is not to offer advice or favour one side or the other. The approach is non-confrontational.Mediation can be particularly helpful when a couple want to put the interests of their children first yet find it difficult to reach agreement. If they can find an amicable solution that is fair to both sides then there is a chance that they may remain on good terms after the divorce.This can be enormously helpful as they may need to retain a good working relationship for many years to come for the sake of their children.The same principle applies to other arrangements that have to be made when couples separate. They may have to sell their home so the proceeds can be divided between them. They may also have to reach agreements about their investments, their property and even their pensions.It is better if these issues can be resolved in a civilised way that is fair to both sides rather than have a solution imposed upon them by a court.Mediation sessions may take place over several months so neither side has to be rushed into decisions.
Once the couple reach agreement, the mediator will record it in two summaries. Both husband and wife should then give those summaries to their respective solicitors so they can form the basis of a consent order.Mediation may bot be suitable for everyone but for thousands of couples it has already provided a way to reduce the stress and heartache to a minimum.For more information on mediation please contact Angela Maxfield on 0115 947 0641.Labels: Andersons Solicitors, divorce and separation, divorce law, divorce specialists, east midlands, legal experts, mediation, nottingham, separating, solicitors